Today I was with a couple of friends having a coffee after a walk.  We were musing over the decisions that could be made at midlife.  Now are these difficult or are they a delight?  It seems that some of us can recognise that there are many opportunities and choices and just have a go and see what happens.  Others of us are so scared of making the wrong decision that we don’t do anything at all.

It suddenly struck me that we are perhaps the first generation that has this dilemma/opportunity. Whilst we have had the notion and description of midlife for some time it is only relatively recently that we have had an extended midlife and perhaps we are the pioneering generation in this.  It is no longer a getting ready for the downward spiral (no wonder we had crises).  Instead (and much more fun and inspiring) it is a time to completely reinvent ourselves should we so desire.

For me reinvention means reconnecting to that innate sense of well-being, worth and happiness. Recognising that these are not things outside of ourselves to be searched for through what we have and do, but our very essence.  Once we make that reconnection we can choose how we want to be from now on.  Adventurous or Reluctant? Creator or Reactor? Fearless or Fearfull? Owner or Victim?

We do not have to remain stuck in work, relationships, situations, thoughts and beliefs that we may have spent many years creating and no longer desire – and they may well have served their purpose up until now, so we can congratulate ourselves for getting this far!

Have fun taking the plunge into something new.  If you make a mistake then change your mind. There is nothing wrong in making a mistake and changing your mind – the only wrong thing is to stay with the mistake and be miserable for the rest of your life.